Soul Shine

  • By Jonathan Benjamin
  • 11 Aug, 2015

Kelly Koerpel

I have been stuck in my head for several weeks now. Luckily, the weekend of awesomeness in Key West with the PIP Tribe broke that spell for a few moments … but upon returning home after the weekend, I slipped back into "asleep mode" as Craig and Anella described.

Yesterday I decided I'd had enough. Time to take some action. Some serious action! No more analyzing in my head about how I should create my coaching business, no more waiting til I'm a "certified coach" to offer my services. Nope. Time to kick some ass. Right now! Time to harness some of that amazing PIP energy that I soaked in over the weekend and put it into creation.

So I woke up early and started brainstorming in my journal. I've wanted to create a coaching business for as long as I can remember. I've wanted lead a women's group for even longer than that. So I started brainstorming … jotting down empowering words that resonate with me … random ideas for titles for my business.

The word SHINE came into my mind. Yeah, I like that word. Shine. (Makes me think of Alissa :). And as I looked up from my journal, I noticed a book that I had received as a gift which I had displayed on my dresser and it was entitled, "Shine!" Oh, I love that! Then it occurred to me that that I had a second copy of that same book because two different people had given me the same book as a gift recently. No wonder I resonate with the word SHINE.

Then I looked at my wall and noticed the sign I had hanging next to my mirror, "It's time to Sparkle and Shine!" ( Michelle Spalding , I believe you have this saying printed on your beach bag!  Then my eyes hopped over to my mirror where I noticed I had three sparkly stars hanging as decor. "Shit! I better get up and start looking all around my condo to see what ELSE is shining around here!!"

So I went on a photo scavenger hunt all around my condo and found 34 examples of SHINE all around me … from magnets on my fridge to sunrise pictures to everyone's fave Marianne Williamson poem which includes this line, "We are all meant to shine", to the awesome note I received from Fredrick at the end of PIP, "Kelly, Shine your light … you have it to Shine."

Oh my gosh, I was in pure love with the synchronicity of it all! I was surrounded by my own answer! It's time to SHINE, Kel!! :)

And so I sat down and busted out my Facebook page for my Soul Journey Coaching business, I designed my women's group and started putting together the content and materials and recruiting participants and scheduling guest presenters. And it just flowed. And it was so fun! And it was all because I decided to get out of my head and take an action step. Taking that one inspired action step has already lead to amazing things in just a short period of time.

Mike Dooley put this quote in my head way back in 2010 but it seems to be most appropriate at this juncture: Do everything you can, with what you've got, from where you are.

Thanks to all my new found TRIBE members for inspiring me with your stories, your creations, your programs, your hearts and your love over the last few weeks. I'm telling you, you're part of the reason why I'm finally ready to shine! :)
By Jonathan Benjamin 19 Feb, 2016
Many times in our lives we realize that we would like more of something.  More courage, more patience, more strength, etc....

Often we may think that somehow - as if by magic - we will just wake up one morning with a strong and noticeable increase in these areas.

The truth is - just like building muscles takes a workout -  these strengths also need to be flexed to be built up in that way.

Q: So, if I ask/pray for more patience, what's the workout to build that strength?

A: You will be put in situations that test your patience. 
You may find yourself being surrounded by people and situations that annoy the shit out of you - thus giving you the opportunity to flex that muscle a little more each time until it is strong.  Same with courage. You want more courage?  You will find yourself in scary situations where you are forced to be courageous.

It's a muscle that has to be flexed, that's why courage comes AFTER you face a fear, not before.

Leigh Daniel and I speak often of how we "want it to be" when we plan our "Possibilities in Paradise" events, but we also realize that we can't completely control everything,  so we remind each other pretty much hourly to also be "flexible".

There are varying degrees of how difficult being flexible can be, depending on the situation.  If you are waiting for someone to pick you up and drive you somewhere, you may be a little more or a little less flexible depending on what time you have to be at the next place.  Maybe if you wanted a burger for dinner but had chicken instead, that would be an easy thing for you to be flexible about.

But what about the times when it's a bigger deal? Or something that you spent a lot of time planning and coordinating? Or when you feel there is a lot riding on the outcome?  ( also called "attachment" but we will talk about that another time!)

Those are the times when I find it the most difficult to be flexible.   Maybe because it is then coupled with feelings of disappointment that it didn't go as planned or that I will look bad in some way - or maybe that I don't want others to feel let down. I'm not sure, but I'm learning.

The weekend of Feb 5th 2016, we embarked on our 6th (nearly sold-out) Possibilities in Paradise retreat, where once again Leigh and I spoke about flexibility to each other.

Man oh man, did we get schooled on flexibility this time....

Seriously schooled. Masters Degree-style..... PHD even.

To my memory, it was one of the wettest and coldest weekends ever in Key West and we had quite a bit of outdoor activities planned.

A yoga presentation on the beach was cut extremely short on the first day.  Then cancelled on day two, both due to rain.  We did our best to find cover at the small guest house where we all were staying - but we had to forgo the full presentation.

One of our guest speakers was scheduled for a presentation on the beach after Yoga, which also had to be postponed.

Our sunset boat cruise/dancing trip was also cancelled for the weather, which left us without a group venue for Saturday night.

On the last day, we rented a hotel banquet room for an extra few hours to accommodate back-to-back-to-back speaker presentations that got postponed from the previous day. This also really pushed the limit of how much information our attendees could absorb all at once.  I once heard that your brain can only absorb info for the length of time your butt can sit in a seat!

Our final "Red Carpet"event at a private movie theater was also cut short due to unforeseen and unavoidable circumstances.  A very abbreviated and impromptu "thank you send-off" was done back at the guest house instead of what we had originally planned.

I don't say all of this to bitch or whine. Quite the the contrary.  I am proud to be able to report that Leigh and I - as well as everyone else in attendance - just rolled with it....and with smiles.

I am happy that so many people and other businesses were also flexible with us to move things around and help.

Since flexibility was the attribute or muscle we intended to strengthen, then I am profoundly grateful for each and every one of the situations that facilitated an opportunity to flex.

So - I have just 2 questions:

What is it that you desire more of in your life?

Are you able to view situations which facilitate those desires, as opportunities - no matter how challenging they may look?


I just watched 37 people simultaneously do it all weekend long.

I know you can too.






By Jonathan Benjamin 31 Dec, 2015
Fear is a thief and a liar.

As a thief, Fear robs us of the present moment.

The vast majority of the time that we are experiencing Fear, we are in no real immediate danger. (If you're being chased by a lion or being mugged right now, this doesn't apply to you. Please put down your computer or smart phone and RUN! If not, please keep reading.)

If the present moment contains no true danger, then Fear is causing our attention and energy to be squandered on something that isn't real. At best, Fear is a hypothesis about something in the future that may or may not happen.

Which brings up the second point. Fear is also a liar.

The things that Fear insidiously whispers into your psyche are trumped-up lies. It tells you lies about what other people "probably" think about you. Lies about that thing you want to accomplish, but you'll "probably" end up failing at it. Lies about how you've "probably" screwed up your future by that horrible mistake you made in your past. All lies.

Think of how many times you've experienced Fear and the thing you were afraid of turned out to be no big deal. Your Fear has been wrong so many times, it's amazing you pay attention to anything with that bad a track record.

Fear doesn't have your best interests in mind, like it wants you to believe. Fear deprives your of your greatest gift--the present moment--and it seeks to limit your future with a bunch of lies.

Next time you experience Fear, expose it as a thief and a liar.

Catch it red-handed, in the act of its deception. And, then, unceremoniously show it the door. The quicker, the better.
By Jonathan Benjamin 30 Dec, 2015
As humans, we are indeed collectors of junk.

We collect things.

We hold onto things.

Too many things.

We do this with emotional baggage (junk) as well as with physical things (junk) – as anyone who’s ever packed their home in preparation of a move can attest, we all accumulate a LOT of junk.

With the new year directly around the corner and with a nudge from a post by Regena Garrepy called “Clean, Clear & Complete” , I decided that it was time to take action and get rid of some “junk”.

Although a few rooms in my life – ahem, I mean my house – could use it, I decided my master closet was the best place to start.

To hold on, or to let go?

Seems like there is always a battle – at least mentally – between the two. We tend to rationalize keeping….. well, EVERYTHING! That’s how it got so bad in the first place!

This doesn’t quite fit, but it will as soon as I lose a few pounds…

This just needs a button sewed on…

-I would wear this again if I had a fancy place to wear it…

This , just needs a pair of pants/shoes/belt/whatever that match it…

And so on and so forth.

I read a great article one time about a way to clean out the closet. It said: “Throw everything on the bed and ONLY put things back in the closet that you LOVE.”

Only. Things. You. Love.

I love it. It’s genius – and as I was going through the process, I had to keep defaulting back to that genius statement because I kept sliding down the path of rationalizing reasons to keep things.

Therein lies the beauty and simplicity of the theory.

It can’t be argued with.

It can’t be rationalized away.

It really doesn’t matter if you can wear it again…one day…..if you lost some weight…..if you fixed the button….if, if if….

The question is:

DO YOU ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT?

Yes or no. The answer becomes really clear, really fast.

And so it went. I gave away 6 huge bags of clothes – and it felt amazing. I highly recommend it. Especially now to start off the new year with a different kind of feeling.

Now the real power of this “do you love it” question comes if we also apply it to our daily choices.

Should I go to this place?
Should I talk to this person?
Should I take this job?
Should I date /deal with/ partner with that person?
Should I be talking about this subject?

Maybe the answers to all the above are also very clear….

Only if you love it.

And if there’s something you don’t love, but HAVE to do, then find a way to love it.

We are so scared to let go of certain things in our lives. Even things that aren’t serving us. But letting go and getting rid of the wrong/old/non-serving things in our lives makes room for the right things to show up.

How about emotionally?

What “junk” are you holding on to that is keeping your “emotional closet” cluttered?

The junk that’s keeping new and exciting things from coming your way?

It’s a block….and you can let it go.

You can choose to clean it out.

Throw it away. Start fresh with new thoughts.

Thoughts and beliefs that excite you.

Ones that look really great on you.

Ones that make you smile.

Ones that help you to enjoy life.

Ones that show you how many wonderful things there are to experience – and that every experience, can be a wonderful thing.

So grab all of those old beliefs - about yourself/life/money/love/relationships/success/self-worth - and throw them all on the bed.

Then….

Enter this new year with only the ones you love.

See you on the other side. I’ll be the one smiling at you.
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